In the news there was about female aggression in movies etc, https://yle.fi/a/74-20095413 .
If there is aggression in a famiky, there is often some reason for it. If the family members do not fit together, each one ought to be given some more space for their own life, to be used in ways fitting into living in a society, like some quite ordinary hobby for example, or the mom moving to live with her new date instead, no longer a part of the former family, since such instinct level choices do not fit together with several competing close choices especially in the first times, and later one will see how things naturally go.
If there are weapons like guns etc, it is no great wonder if someone is able to kill a family member that one does not socially value or get along with. Often such things relate to whether the group and society support one in such, and that has to do with living where one suits the culture, the people, the professions and ways of living, etc. In Finland it is clear that one ought to live where one likes the climate. Unbearable problems often arise from one lying to oneself too always taking care of some skills, values, tasks, quality, etc that were mentioned in connection with something or someone. So peopke start referring to that area of life as your own choice, and so the burden grows across time, if you do not find a way to communicate right what your own chouces, skills and values are.
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For good school achievements each family member should do the thibgs in which school knowledge or school type of thinking or other school taught things, do those kinds of chores etc individually, kibd of as if by themselves even if there are other family member or other people present. Tgat means without socially leaning on others, for example copyibg by social eye. Instead one should ask info, read and memorize from a book, ask for the basic memorized advices and space to try on lne's own. One should also think through those kinds of things in one's wide picture of the world, so that one has routibe in objective thinking and a good understanding backing up also the more complex claims in civiliced wisdom.
Choices of values often demand thinkibg of the whole, and seeing fair play connecting with the value of market economies and of the usefulness of the division of labour. And noticing that kibd of rigid claims in the air usually refer to your own expressed opinilns but seen via the eyes of the others presently talkibg with, are kind of their conqlysiobs of what you promused to follow. So those are not the society. The school seeks to teach basic skills useful in life, also how to behave wisely in the world. But teachers often teach only the basic things in school books, and more complex things like social estimates, lenght of school, etc, who ought to decide about each thing, etc are matters of the whole society, often characterised by the shortcomings of observatiobs about people, occult things, variatiobs in the perspectives of each, variatiobs between people, etc.
The basic rule is that each one ought to be alliwed to decide about one's own life. "Live and let others live" is a good rule to follow. And one ought notice that each one usually cultivates things only on certain areas, and with certain skills, values, quality, picture of the world and picture of the situatiobs at hand. One ought not be alliwed to affect things that one does not cultivate. So each one should be alliwed to affect one's own life. And one should notice that care professions, people i terested in soldier's skills or murders, and people reaching for position in the world without any real reason, are often not watching things from the poibt of view of the whole picture of the world and civiliced values, objective thinking, etc. And so othefs too should keep up civiliced values etc, instead of believing in lues etc. A professional in a trouble like context is often causing such and worse, so some old civiluced wisdom easing troubles away would ve much better, much more lije civiluced profwssional skill.
