Of male and female ways of being social

 When I lived in Savonlinna in eastern Finland, where there is an opera festival in an old medieval castle almost every summer, the educated female singers and female singers on some local free time ooera singing courses were surprisingly often of a certain somewhat stiff brisk somewhat school like style not-fat-at-all and not round-shaped type of women. I have wondered what they were and why just such, and it is as if some had said that thise are Stephen type transvestites, good to know. So I have wondered also what it means that some person is Stephen type. It seems to mean a person social mainly only with boys of 10 to 12 years old, and like them via some social connections be dragged to women's things, learn something of them but rely only on boys' views and boys' understandkng also in that. So it is lije catastrophically collapsing women's things when claimed to be ok to take part in them and cultivate the needed values, skills and fair play needed in such. The problem is that some type of mild keeping company type of social relatilns between men who try to be of the same group ("we did not do anything, no-one did anything, we do work quite like usual but are not personally speaking for some new endeavour or course of action"), without such being good influence if women get it, such ways somehow got as influencies to girls, so girls lost some of their spirit and room for their own things, their own wisdom of life, and boys mistakenly started copying from girls or women things boys (when taking into account values, skills and skill level, profession like tasks well cared for in the society and in tge world, ways of doing, type of being social, social place in the environment, loyalty, future goals, dreams, expectations, whose views one trusts, does one avoid something, etc) did not need. The normal way of women and girls being social among women would be that each one follows one's own wisdom of life, and together we try to arrange things well in the society, follow the rule "Live and let others live!", see F60. at LearnTalents.BlogSpot.com , and give each civilicedly room to live in, dividing labour etc fairly.